Monday, July 3, 2017

Breaking up as an adult.

Just moments after I decided to declare to the world that I was in love.
The posts, the blog, the instagram.....
It all seemed premature.

Because sometimes even though all of your stars look like they match. It's an illusion. Maybe you want them to be so bad that you pretend that they do. Or maybe you want them to so bad, you turn a blind eye to the fact that in reality, the stars are a complete mismatched mess. Completely.
Those stars that looked so breathtakingly beautiful, are really, just big balls of hot gas.

I don't think it's anyone's fault. We can't blame each other for not being right for one another. But the bottom line is, we're not.
Part of dating as an adult is really assessing if this relationship is something you really want, beyond short-term. Unfortunately, I just couldn't see that.

Sometimes completely different views and perspectives just don't work together. And that's okay!

It's funny though, I haven't been in this dating game since I was 17. It's kind of strange. Like breaking hearts, tears, and feelings are still things... fancy that! But now we do things... like adults! Sit down and have a conversation and mutually decide to part ways, adults. Kids are involved, items are involved, we invested in each others lives, now we have to un-invest, as 'adulty' as possible.

So, here I am, again, finding myself single in my 20's.... and blogging about it!

Which I'm not ashamed to be, I do like my own company, and my life is completely hectic enough. I love the self time, the growth time, the perspective time.
God knows that I really need to get a hold on this hot mess I call life before I can share it with anyone else.

Now is the time I focus on me and my beautiful children.
And boy, do I love my life with them. Seriously, have you met these two amazing people?!

-Harley xx

Monday, June 19, 2017

Half way through '17

6th month of '17.
Can't believe we're half way through already.
Thought it was time to re-evaluate where I wanted my year to be, and where it's heading. So much has changed. So much I've done! So much I haven't... 

2017 Goals as of Jan, 17!

* Turn my data off more, spend more time off my phone during the day. More time connecting with life.

I need to really do this. I'm getting so caught up in Social Media. I'm definitely finding it really hard to switch off!

* Make more effort for adventures with the kids. Build memories. Bus to the beach & weekends away.

We've done a few different things which have been so much fun! Beach, Movies, Kids Paradise... It's a little more difficult with school for Jydan, and when he's off he's exhausted. School holiday fun is on the cards though!

* Embrace my body, wear a bikini.

I've just started taking a little more care of my body, but my 'no shits given' attitude is still in force.... most of the time.

* Write daily, write a book! Continue blogging.

I did decide that I wouldn't continue with publishing my book. But writing has still continued.

* More effort connecting with friends. Catching up. Make time to spend quality time with them.

So many fun memories with friends already, can't wait for more during the rest of the year.

* Do something fun every Tuesday with Jydan. Movies, pool, adventures, bike rides, visit his friends. Jydan day!

Unfortunately I haven't continued with Jydan day. However, I have made sure that he gets an extra special hour of just him time each night before he goes to bed.

* Celebrate occasions more. Birthdays, Easter, Christmas in July. Make occasions incredibly fun and excited. Be creative!

Christmas in July is in the plan! I've also had lots of fun travelling, celebrated my birthday and divorce and many other things!

Ultimately 2017 was going to be about building relationships, myself and the kids up.

I have already;

  • Travelled to the Great Barrier Reef with my mum and friends.
  • Snorkelled through the reef.
  • Made many fun memories.
  • Laughed SO many times.
  • Met someone.
  • Started studying.
  • Continued working my home business.
  • Expanded my business
  • Made more friends.
  • Had fun memories with the kids.
  • Started Jydan at school.
  • Got my ears and nose pierced.
  • Spent more time with my friends.
  • Started being more organised.
  • Went back to church.
  • Dyed my hair purple & red.
  • Loved life.
Soooo much more exciting things to come!! 

What an incredible year this has been!!! 

One of my favourites!

Harley xx

Sunday, June 18, 2017

My Scentsy Story

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Monday, June 12, 2017

My life recipe;

I get asked often about how I can be so positive and happy. 

I follow this exact life recipe;
I know my worth.

  • I don't owe anyone anything.
  • NOBODY owes me anything.
  • I am not responsible for someone else's actions.
  • I am not responsible for someone else's happiness.
  • What people say or do, is not a reflection on me.
  • It is not my responsibility to make someone else content.
  • It is not my doing to make someone else successful.
  • I can not control anybody else.
  • I am only responsible for my own actions and happiness (and at this stage in my life, my children's).
  • I will not take ownership of anyone else.
  • I will not feel insecure by someone else.
  • I do not need approval, but my own.
  • I won't associate with negativity.
  • I am aware of other peoples energy.
  • I am content with who I am.
  • I am me.
  • I appreciate everything.

I have a strong mind and a soft heart. I love others deeply and completely, and I love myself too, and I know my worth.

Self care is so important.

How can you give to anyone else if your own vessel is empty?

-Harley xx